#1 - When my children were young I often craved a space just to call my own. I am a very creative person, so I came up with one. I decided to declare my bedroom a sanctuary. My children always knew I was available but when it came to Mom and Dad's bedroom, it was off limits. The rule was - my bedroom door would never be closed but they were not allowed to enter our room, unless invited! They could see me, they knew they were safe but they also realized that there was a place just for Mom and Dad. It is okay to need a moment of peace and quiet.
#2 - Parents need to unite in their decisions over matters concerning the children. The best way to do this is out of sight of the kids. I would love to say that my husband and I practiced this in our early years of marriage. But if truth be told - we did not. This has become a conviction of ours from doing it incorrectly.
#3 - Do not talk about important issues before bed. We made a rule in our young married life, not to talk about anything important after 8:00 p.m. We found that when we did, my husband was able to go right to sleep, sometimes before the conversation was completed. I was left thinking about it and found myself getting more frustrated as I became more tired.