Falling In Love
Falling In Love
In the early years of courting you hear people say “I am in love” or “I have fallen in love”. I am not sure that this phrase is accurate. When you think of falling, the image of getting ourselves up comes to mind. Another might be seeing reality for what it is.
Webster definition for FALL: move downward, typically rapidly and freely without control, from a higher to a lower level.
I like the description “I was physically attracted and I grew to love him/her”. When you think of the word growing, we think of starting from a seed. The seed grows in strength over a course of time. Roots are being established to support the plant as it continues to grow. When maturity is complete, space can be shared since the root system is secure.
Websters definition for GROW: (of a living thing) undergo natural development by increasing in size and changing physically; progress to maturity.
After 36 years of marriage – the peace, contentment, the acceptance, the forgiveness that we experience is not from falling in love but rather from growing in love. This kind of strength comes from ‘time’. Divorces happen for many reasons – but I wonder if one of those reasons is the impatience involving ‘time’ necessary to work in the relationship. Love is not grown necessarily through the things we are going through but through the things we have gone through, which equals TIME.
And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight... Philippians 1:9