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Offspring Leave the Nest

We as parents have good intentions, but intentions can cause discord.

 

 

He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”  Matthew 19:4-6

 

There are cases with extreme circumstances - but I will say a good general rule is when your kids get married the parents play a new role in their children's lives. The parent no longer has a voice in the direction that "the two who have become one" go.

This is not an easy position to step into. My Mother is a fix-it personality.  When my husband and I purchased a home - as in all homes, we began to see all the defects evident within our purchase. My Mother with all GOOD INTENTIONS stepped right up to the plate. She was ready to call the work people and put the money out to fix the problem. I should have been thankful but I wasn't.  Tom and I had not even talked about it yet - no less come to a conclusion.

It is worth repeating, "We as parents have good intentions but good intentions can cause discord."

Our rule for our grown children:  We try (noticed I said "try") to give our opinion only when we are asked. On the other side of that coin, our children know because we were asked that we have the freedom to express how we see their circumstances.

Here's the difference - we were asked.

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Welcome to the place that I refer to as my "Secret Garden". That place is my heart, where I share who I am. Gardener, Landscaper, Card Maker, Nature Lover - are just a few of my loves. My new adventure that I am about to embark on is "Homesteading". I see chickens in my future. But my ultimate love is Encouraging Others with the Love of Christ and I do that by sharing my experiences in hopes that you know you are not alone. The Areas I have had the privilege of serving in: President of Okinawa, Japan International Women's Club, Speaker, Author, Bible Teacher, Personal Mentor.

Valerie

Welcome to the place that I refer to as my "Secret Garden". That place is my heart, where I share who I am. Gardener, Landscaper, Card Maker, Nature Lover - are just a few of my loves. My new adventure that I am about to embark on is "Homesteading". I see chickens in my future. But my ultimate love is Encouraging Others with the Love of Christ and I do that by sharing my experiences in hopes that you know you are not alone. The Areas I have had the privilege of serving in: President of Okinawa, Japan International Women's Club, Speaker, Author, Bible Teacher, Personal Mentor.