I remember as a child repeating the phrase “Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”. In reality this has proven to be incorrect. This statement first appeared in The Christian Recorder of March 1862, a publication of the African Methodist Episcopal Church.
“Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”
Have you said or thought the following statement?
“We know exactly what that other person’s motives are, therefore I will judge the situation or just be plain offended.” If we are honest with ourselves, the answer is – YES. I know I have been guilty. We are quick to judge a conduct, speech, a response, an action..all because we feel that we see what is going on around us clearly. Wrong! The Bible is very clear that we can not even understand our own hearts.
Jeremiah 17:9-10 “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it? I the Lord search the heart and test the mind, to give every man according to his ways, according to the fruit of his deeds.”
We, as God’s people, need to stop assuming and start practicing GRACE. Not judging every response by our own eyes but allowing room for “the benefit of the doubt” or what I like to say “Extending Grace”.
Romans 12:18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
James 1:23-24 For anyone who hears the word but does not carry it out is like a man who looks at his face in a mirror, and after observing himself goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like.… Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror.
Just Thinking Back….
Sharing Random Thoughts
#1 – When my children were young I often craved a space just to call my own. I am a very creative person, so I came up with one. I decided to declare my bedroom a sanctuary. My children always knew I was available but when it came to Mom and Dad’s bedroom, it was off limits. The rule was – my bedroom door would never be closed but they were not allowed to enter our room, unless invited! They could see me, they knew they were safe but they also realized that there was a place just for Mom and Dad. It is okay to need a moment of peace and quiet.
#2 – Parents need to unite in their decisions over matters concerning the children. The best way to do this is out of sight of the kids. I would love to say that my husband and I practiced this in our early years of marriage. But if truth be told – we did not. This has become a conviction of ours from doing it incorrectly.
#3 – Do not talk about important issues before bed. We made a rule in our young married life, not to talk about anything important after 8:00 p.m. We found that when we did, my husband was able to go right to sleep, sometimes before the conversation was completed. I was left thinking about it and found myself getting more frustrated as I became more tired.